LACKING CONFIDENCE?! Lets find it. THINGS THIS OVERCONFIDENT GIRL DOES NOT DO!
Happy Saturday How About that fans!!! Let us get all wooo wooo (My term for hen I am getting all "self developmentallyish"<-- A term I made up!)
Confidence-- Are you lacking it? Do some MINDGROWTH TECHNIQUES
Mindset growth starts with just THAT-- Your mindset. I am an overly confident person. Always Have been-- "Oh, I can do that?!" Probably my mom and dads fault. They pretty much planted it in my brain from a young age-- I can in fact do ANYTHING I set my mind to. This is something I do with my kids on the regular. I am always telling them "You are the SMARTEST person I know" OR "YOU are the most beautiful person in the world", Ect. The list goes on. I truly Believe this is why I am the way I am!
No one do this for you?! Well, That sucks but it doesn't have to be a cycle! Tell ALL the young people in your life stuff like this. BUILD A BETTER FUTURE.
So START WITH STATEMENTS like "I Can do this if I want to--" "I haven't failed because I haven't even started!" "What can I do to be a better version of myself today?" "I will try something new today-- even something small" "I am not letting fear based decisions dictate me today"
TAKE FREAKIN' ACTION! I do NOT let the grass grow under my feet. Take action against what you are not confident about!
I am no fortune teller but I can tell you right now that if you are 100 pounds over weight-- sitting on your tail, researching diets, ect or looking at "Body goals" Isn't going to take you anywhere. Get up walk and workout while listening to youtube videos, books, podcasts all about the areas you need help in! You need a new job? Change of Pace? Hoping, wishing, cussing after work everyday will not make the situation better... You must TAKE ACTION--- Learn How to write a cover letter, learn how to use your voice and communication to find something better, or Ya know what? Voice what is wrong at your current job-- COMMUNICATE. ASK for help if you need it-- But do not rely on ANYONE to better your situation. Bottom line, You are never going to feel "ready enough" if you are a person who lacks confidence in general. That doesn't matter you start ANYWAYS. You must get started—you will make mistakes, but you will learn. You will figure things out as you go because your knowledge will expand with experience.
SECOND THING I DON'T DO--- ASK FOR PERMISSION OR REASSURANCE!
Here is where my parents probably struggled, LOL. I have never asked permission for a DAMN thing. Got me in trouble a lot. However, It has also gained me many opportunities and experiences I wouldn't of otherwise had the opportunity to do! So think about it this way--- Or maybe Don't but this is where my ADHD brain takes me. You have an abscessed tooth-- that gives you a head ache-- You take tylenol and that relieves your headache and helps your tooth pain, BUT in a few hours it is RIGHT BACK with vengeance because you chose to ignore the root of this problem-- Your Abscessed tooth. Same thing with anxiety... When someone gives you that reassurance "Oh honey, it will okay"pp You feel temporarily relieved but like that tylenol wearing thin-- IT IS BACK . -- You get my gist--- It is a bad cycle! A good counselor once in high school told me "Anxiety is crappy-- but it isn't dangerous. You aren't gonna die of anxiety"---
So, The next time you are faced with something you aren't confident about just accept the feeling of overwhelm or fear--- Show yourself that your body indeed can withstand a little anxiety--- Therefore, creating a little more confidence the next time.
I DON'T MAKE FEAR BASED DECSIONS--- OR MAYBE IM JUST TO DUMB TO KNOW ANYBETTER-- BUT, HEY! it works.
Fear based decision making (TO ME) is backing down from something that will help you achieve your goals because of something that happened in the past or something you fear will happen!
Ever avoid something you wanted to do based on something that happened in the past? LET IT GO. That isn't happening right now-- This is a new chance, new opportunity. Take things as lessons, and approach it differently the next time.
I don't do "nay Sayers" "Negative Nancy's" or "Soul sucking sally's"
You Shouldn't either, and here is why--- They will project their own fears and failures onto you-- Therefore, creating that fear based decision making I was speaking of. People who fall into these categories are often Jealous. You confidence is often making them feel bad about themselves for not taking action. If you are one of these people--- STAY AWAY FROM THOSE OF US WHO ARE NOT.
I will quit brain dumping now and conclude---
Bottom line, Everyday we are face with lots of choices-- Big and small. Those choices we make can either lead us to something better, or it can lead us to something worse.
Now, Are you going to choose to take action and make progress--- Or, will you choose to be still.
Whatever choice you make-- Is this helping you to your goals, or pushing you away!
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